Friday, May 28, 2010

Body Art

Let me preface this by saying that I am already tattooed. However, being raised by a conservative father and having a bit (a tiny tiny bit) of foresight (since I had no idea what career I wanted,) both tattoos are generally only seen by others if I want them to be.

Getting tattoos is addictive. No doubt. Each time I got one, I wanted another immediately. Unlike the most common argument I have heard against tattoos (I can't decide what I would want on my body forever) I consider my tattoos fond memories of the times that I got them. (Even the cliched rose on my hip that I got when I was eighteen. Sigh. Kids, there's a reason you have to be 18 to get a tattoo...and even then, perhaps you should wait. A rose? On my hip? Really?)

So for the past few years, I've wanted another tattoo. The location is what is holding me back. Because even though I'm decisive and generally don't let the opinions of others hold me back, I tend to poll my loved ones about decisions such as this, and the opinions of said loved ones definitely hold some weight. The more loved you are, the more weight your opinion holds.

Here are the limitations: The tattoo must be somewhere that is not obvious. That can be covered if need be. And I would like to be able to wear a formal dress on occasion without any tattoos showing. Which is why I've waited over four years for this tattoo. Because locations are limited. Shoulder? Too many backless formal dresses. Ankle? I wear flip flops and sandals all the time. Inside wrist? I'm not opposed to this. But front of shoulders and arms are out of the question - I wear way too many tank-top items.

So what I want is to get it on the back of my neck. And, this is the one location that the boy is vehemently opposed to.

He says: white trash. I say: sexy.

Maybe it's trashy-sexy?

He says: unprofessional. I agree. But you can't see it if I wear my hair down.

He says: What if you get your hair cut short. I say: I will never do so again, because I've SEEN pictures of my hair cut short and each time I wonder "WHAT WAS I THINKING?!" I have made a vow to go no shorter than shoulder length for the rest of my natural life.

He says: What if you go to a formal event and want to wear your hair in an updo? I say: Good point. Damn. I hate tattoos that show when formal dresses are worn. (And, if I were the sort of girly girl who would take into consideration one very important formal event that she has yet to go through, she might wonder about what would and would not show on this day - depending entirely on the dress. But on the flip side, she is comfortable thinking that she may never go through that event. Should she take into consideration something that may never happen?)

But, I keep thinking about it. And it's been years. This is generally the measuring stick that I use to determine whether or not I can live without something. Does it stay on my mind even when I'm removed from it? Yes. Yes it does. Well then I must have it.

It wouldn't be anything big - the symbol that I have in mind would be small and unobtrusive. There probably wouldn't be any color involved.

So....opinions? Thoughts? Comments? I welcome all points of view. Because, see, I woke up this morning with an uncontrollable urge to get something tattooed or pierced, and the boy would desperately like someone to talk me into the piercing vs the tattoo...

11 comments:

Candace said...

How about the middle ear piercing like G?

BTW...I still like my ankle tattoo and most people don't notice it even when I am wearing crop pants and flip flops. And....I am trying to go the rest of my life without ever wearing a dress;)

ems said...

Candy - that is 100% what I was thinking. A piercing like G's.

And the tattoo on your ankle is tiny, right? I remember seeing it, but I don't remember what it is...

Becoming Grace said...

You know, your other CA cousin has a tattoo on the back of her neck: 2 butterflies, each with a tiny initial of each girl.

Yes, you can see it if she pulls her hair up. But they are small, look tasteful, and she can proudly tell you why she got them.

I love the boy, but that may be the best place to do it. Especially because you can always leave tendrils hanging to mask it if you want to wear your hair up, and if it's a halter dress it should cover it completely....

The Carrels said...

get one if you want one...but make sure you go see Matt @ Metamorphasis...

Kat(i)e said...

I know two people who have them on their rib cage, you know, below the bikini top, off to the side. No one sees it and is a fun surprise is a bathing suit. If I were to get another I'd put one there. Once you decide, come to Chicago to get it!

zlionsfan said...

Yes, you should keep in mind something that may or may not happen.

I actually thought about the inside of the wrist as a suggestion ... I didn't read the list too clearly, obviously.

I am very conservative on this topic, so you should keep that in mind. I tend to lean toward recommending things that are less permanent, so I would probably lean toward a piercing rather than a tattoo.

Of course, the advantage I have here is that I experienced this in reverse ... I believe you explained what you decided first, and then later I read this post ...

Moore said...

Nearly every woman I know under 35has one or more tattoos. I've seen neck ones on men and women of all skin tones and the word that comes to mind instantly is gangster or to keep it real, gangsta. So I believe getting one really could improve your street cred. I mean with a neck tattoo and the dog, no one would mess with you.....EVER.

ems said...

Moore - that just cracked me up! Street cred. I'll have to ponder that. It's always been a lifelong goal to have street cred. Does this mean that the boys will stop bothering me on my walks?

JennyG said...

Back of the neck?!? I can think of some more sexy placements than that! Probably not appropriate for your blog though...I owe you a callback anyway. :)

zlionsfan said...

ems: no. That's not going to happen. ever.

alisa said...

Obviously, this is a no brainer. Do it. You'll love it. You've put the thought into it and I'd like to see pictures. Or we can get tattoos *when* you come to visit sometime this summer ...